Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, forget the unacceptable
These days I consistently see that many of my patients that come to me for an opinion about surgery, are suffering with stress issues. After a few sessions of counselling and understanding, I’ve realised that the main problem is the acceptance. People always expect everything to be 100%, irrespective of whether they have put the needed effort. Funny thing is their expectations on others when they themselves can’t do or don’t do a thing. I agree what ever we do, results might no be what we expect. The only thing that we can control is the optimisation of our plan and then the work that we do. First things first. Solution starts with realising and accepting the problem. When we can accept a problem that we are facing, it is time to sit down and rethink the whole process that we went through, that resulted in the outcome. A systematic analysis of the work and, the strengths and weaknesses that we have, will ultimately give most optimal result – not necessarily the result that we wanted. So, here acceptance is in two phases – Accepting the Problem and then Accepting the results. When both can be done at a personal level, we grow as a person – a happier one, a successful one (in our own way) and an admirable one. A person in extreme stress often fails to assess the problem and act accordingly. As a professional, my job is to understand the patients problem, analyse it for them and give them a meaningful way out of that problem. But as I’ve discussed, acceptance is the key. Patient has to accept the problem and the result to get out of his/ her problem.
KARAMANYAVADHIKARASTHE MAA PHALESHU KADACHANA MAA KARMA PHALA HETUR BHURMA TE SANAGOSTVAKARMANI
You have the right to work only, but never to its fruits.
Let not the fruits of action be your motive. Nor let your attachment be to inaction.
PS: Accept things the way they are. Let it go. We are just actors in the big game of cosmos.
